A couple of weeks ago, I ran across something I wrote before I started blogging. It was about thinking back to an earlier time in my life. I wondered what my younger self would think of the person I am today and the life I’m currently living. It made me stop and think about the direction my life is now heading.
A couple of years ago, I wondered what my younger self would think of myself at that time. It’s something I still often think about. But, it also makes me wonder what my current self would think about the person I will be 20 years from now. This is an interesting thought.
None of us can predict our future. None of us know where our life will lead us years from now. I have learned that nothing in life goes as planned, so you have to adjust and just go with whatever life hands you. If my life had gone “perfectly”, I would have been married 10 years ago. My wife and I would have 3 kids right now, and I’d be a successful musician. Well, life happens. I’m now 33 years old and single. I teach golf, and am trying to find my way to the life I hope to enjoy in the future.
I’m at the point in my life right now where I feel like really amazing things are within my reach. Many of the things I’ve been struggling to find for years are now close to becoming a reality in my life. I’m not the person I was as a kid. Hell, I’m not the person I was 2 years ago, or even 1 year ago. This past year has completely changed my life and the way I view the world. Sometimes, all you need is the right influence in your life to show you a better way of living and help you get onto the right path.
Over this past year, I have very much become the person I never in a million years would have thought I would become, in a good way. I really have busted out of my shell and have become a lot more outgoing than I had ever thought I would be. I am pretty confident in the person I am and the things I do. I’m still working on feeling more comfortable stepping out of my comfort zone, but, in many ways, the things that would have terrified me beyond anything I could possibly imagine have now become parts of my every day life.
As I look back at how far I’ve come and how much my life has changed over the past 20 years, I can’t help but feel extremely excited for what the next 20 years of my life will bring. I have goals in mind, but, as I said, I’ve learned to not get too comfortable in any plans I have for myself, because life happens.
20 years from now, I want to be married and want my children to be well on their way to becoming fine young adults. I want to teach them the difference between right and wrong, and want them to understand that they can change the world in a positive way just by staying positive and setting a good example for those around them. Choose love, always. Love the people around you and encourage them to do the same.
The person you choose to spend the rest of your life with will help determine the level of success you will achieve in your future. From a young age, I’ve always believed that the person you marry and start a life with should be your best friend. Whether that person was your best friend before you married them or not, they should become your best friend. Let’s be honest, looks fade away as we get older. It’s just the way it is. Physical attraction is important, but you need to marry someone you will remain friends with as you grow old together. Find someone who makes you happy, not just someone who looks good right now or is convenient for you. At some point, you will realize that being a great friend to the person you’re married to is far more important than anything else. I hope to someday marry a woman who makes me the best version of myself that I can possibly be every day and who is a friend and lover I can’t imagine living a day of my life without. Whether I’ve already met her, or she is someone I will meet at some point in the future, only time will tell. I’ve learned that the greatest things that happen in life tend to happen when you aren’t looking for them and aren’t expecting them.
As far as the kids I hope to someday raise with my future wife, their life is up to them. I want to teach them the things they will need to know to become the best people they can be as they grow and go out into the world. Whatever they choose to do in their lives, however, as long as they aren’t hurting anyone, is completely up to them and I will support them.
For me, personally, I just want to be happy. I want to become the best golf instructor I can be. I want to be the best husband, father, and, overall, person I can be. I want to make a real difference in the lives of the people I meet. I want to have a positive impact on this world that lives on well beyond my lifetime. I want to show people a different way of living, and show them that they can find their own unique way, as well. I don’t care if I’m ever rich and I don’t care if I’m ever well-known. I just hope that the impact I have on others and the things I am able to share with others lives on. 100 years from now, if no one remembers my name, but the messages I share with the world and the positive way in which I live my life lives on, then I will be happy. I will feel like my life was well-lived.
Nothing I do in my life is totally for myself. There are people in my life who are far more important to me than myself. I do the things I do for them. I want to make them proud. I, in no way, mean to diminish myself or the things I do, I just believe that the most important things we all do in life are done for someone other than ourselves.
We all have different plans and different goals for ourselves in the future. I feel like mine are pretty simple. I want to fall in love and marry someone who becomes my best friend. I want to raise kids who are happy, healthy, and make this world a better place. I want to find success in something that has a positive impact on the world that lasts well beyond my years. Just be the best person I can be, that’s my goal. I don’t want to ever make anyone jealous of me, that’s not my goal. But I hope to be the kind of person who makes others strive to be better every day. I hope I can inspire others to constantly try to improve themselves.
If I look back to 20 years ago, I hope that I am currently someone who would be a hero to my younger self. Looking ahead to the future, I hope to become a hero to the person I am currently. Others in this world are likely looking for the same things as you. If you want to have a positive impact on the world, lead by example. Be your own hero.