How often do you find yourself thinking, “Someday, I’m going to be happy”? How often do you find yourself saying those words to your friends and family? I hear those words from people on almost a daily basis. People are frustrated with certain things in their life and they think that they just need to keep waiting to find the happiness they’ve been needing in their life. Next time you find yourself thinking or talking about the happiness you hope to find someday, ask yourself why you aren’t enjoying that happiness right now. I try to remind people, myself included, that happiness comes from within. However, the people and the things around you can influence your mood and your overall level of happiness, as well.
Ask yourself why you aren’t as happy as you would like to be right now. Is something missing in your life? Are certain people dragging you down? Are you dragging yourself down? Are you feeling a lot of stress and pressure to accomplish something? There could be countless reasons that are holding you back from enjoying the happiness you so badly want to enjoy.
Now, ask yourself if the people or things that are keeping you from enjoying your happiness are really deserving of your time, energy, and attention. Letting go of things or people who have played a major role in your life is extremely difficult, but sometimes it’s necessary. It can end up being the best thing you will ever do for yourself. Far too many times in my life, I have been reminded that life is short. It’s too short to wake up every morning and keep telling yourself, “Someday, I’m going to be happy”. None of us are guaranteed another day. If you knew that today would be your last day on earth, you would enjoy every second of it doing the things that make you happy, and spending time with the people who make you happy. So, why don’t people do that every day, just in case?
Whether you realize it or not, in many situations, the things you’re searching for in your life are right in front of your face. You may just be missing them, because you’re too busy looking elsewhere. Take some time to think about the things and the people in your life that make you happiest… not the ones that you THINK make you happy, but the ones that legitimately never fail to put a smile on your face and make you happier in any situation. How much do you focus on those things or those people every single day? Are they a top priority in your life? If not, then why not? These are the keys to unlocking immediate happiness in your life. You don’t have to search for them and you don’t have to wait for them. They’re already right in front of your face. Pay attention to them. Nothing and no one comes into your life by accident. There is a reason they’re in your life. If something or someone is dragging you down, find the lesson they’re teaching you, and then send them on their way. If they make you truly happy, grab hold of them and never let go.
As we begin another new year, people are focused on improving their lives and making changes, yet most people focus on the wrong changes. Recognize the toxic influences that surround you and remove them from your life. Recognize the positive influences and hold them close. As much as true happiness comes from within, these positive influences in your life will keep you on track and will lend a helping hand along your journey through a life of happiness.
If you’re fortunate, in your life, you will find someone who wants you to be happy every bit as much as you want yourself to be happy. If you keep your eyes open and pay attention, you will recognize their sincerity. Sometimes life hands you an amazing gift. Don’t miss this gift because you’re too busy searching elsewhere. Accept it and see where it leads. Life can be hard a lot of times, but every once in a while, something great will just fall into your lap when you least expect it. It will change your life forever. Don’t question it, just enjoy it.
If you truly want to make changes in your life in this new year that will benefit you for the rest of your life, be happy today, stop waiting for “someday”.