Throughout the course of our lives, we all go through periods in which we start to doubt ourselves and our abilities. We start to question the path we have chosen in life and wonder if it is really the best option for us. Some people experience those times more often than others, but it happens to everyone, regardless of how confident and optimistic you may typically be.
I recently went through one of these periods, and it ended up lasting 3 brutally long weeks. I seemed to be stuck in a pattern of negativity and inactivity, and wasn’t sure how to get out of it. I kept telling myself every morning when I woke up that the day ahead would be better than previous days, but it just wasn’t happening, no matter how hard I tried. I exhausted myself and stressed myself out to the point of feeling completely burned out. You can only put yourself through those situations for so long before you need to either find a different approach for getting out of it, or you need to change paths in your life.
The biggest mistake I made was starting to question what I am doing with my life. For the past couple of years, I have been so proud of what I am doing with my life, and have been excited to see where it all will lead. I should have known better than to question it. Yet, I did.
I have always been great at motivating other people to do great things and have always been someone that others can rely on for encouragement, yet I’ve never been much good at doing the same for myself.
The older I get, the more willing I have become to accept advice from others and to rely on my closest friends for encouragement when things aren’t going well. My friends, in many ways, seem to understand me better than I understand myself. I am starting to learn more about myself through the advice of these people.
It took a 4+ hour long conversation with one of my best friends for me to get my mind back in the right place and realize what I should have been doing all along. I came away from that conversation, however, with a whole new outlook on my life and the things I need to do moving forward.
Because of the things I do in my life on a daily basis, and the fact that I am in the unique position of being one of the few golf instructors who is in a wheelchair, I receive a lot of great compliments from people on a regular basis. Quite often, people approach me and tell me how impressed they are with me and the things I am able to do. They tell me that I inspire them to do things they didn’t realize they could do.
In the past, receiving those kinds of compliments would have been something that I just blew off. I’ve always just done what I needed to do to accomplish the things I’ve wanted to accomplish in my life. I’ve rarely been impressed by myself or have thought of anything I do as being special. The more people I meet, and the more compliments I receive, however, the more I am starting to accept the fact that I am able to have a bigger impact on the people around me than I had ever realized.
I am not sharing these realizations with the world as a way to brag. In fact, I hope it inspires those of you who are reading this. I am learning that I am good enough to do things I never imagined I could do. There is nothing special about me. I am just another guy doing the best I can and hoping to make a difference in the world. If I can do it, so can you. Don’t ever let any doubts you may have stop you from chasing your dreams. You may struggle from time to time, and you may get frustrated. Don’t let it get you down. Those struggles and frustrations are just opportunities for you to realize what doesn’t work, and they will teach you what you need to do instead to succeed in the future. Don’t ever forget, you are good enough. You just need to realize that you are!!