I started writing this back in September. It is now May. This idea has been in my mind for a long time, but I think I needed to really experience it once again before I could finish writing about it.
It’s very easy for people to get these great ideas in their head about how perfectly things will work out in life. Everything seems so simple in theory… and then reality sets in. Things in life rarely go as planned. Whenever you think you have things figured out, life throws you a curveball and completely screws up your plans. When that happens, it’s easy to throw in the towel on your original plans and start over. It’s easy to try to find an easier path to follow, instead of facing that curveball and continuing on the same path.
Very little in my life has ever gone as planned. Things tend to start heading in the direction I want, and then something happens to change it. My life, as is probably the case with most of you who are reading this, has been an endless cycle of unexpected surprises.
I’m very stubborn when it comes to things I really want to do in my life. When there is something that I really want to do, I find a way to make it happen. Even when giving up on a specific goal is probably in my best interest, I will still keep going just to prove that I can overcome the challenges I face to accomplish my goal.
Three years ago at this time, I was visiting Florida to start the process of getting things set to move down here a few short months later. The following months consisted of a ridiculous chain of events that attempted to prevent me from moving and staying here. Basically, the way I overcame those challenges was by ignoring them. I made up my mind that I was making a change in my life, and I ignored anything and everything that tried to get in the way.
Those of you who know me well know that the past few years have not gone smoothly. When I moved down here, I was told that I would be in good shape if I could somehow find a way to survive my first five years here. That was the magic number, five years. I was told that my life would be incredibly difficult and frustrating for the first five years, but, if I could fight through it, that struggle would be worth it. Nearly three years into this journey, life hasn’t gotten a whole lot easier, but I am starting to see signs of things falling into place. I’m one of the fortunate ones. As much as life has tried to beat me down and then kick me while I’m down, I keep getting back up. I have friends who moved here for the same reason I did, and they have already thrown in the towel. They gave up and decided to find something else to do with their life.
I still have a long ways to go to get to that five year mark, but every day I am encouraged to see the progress I’ve made since I moved here. I had a very specific vision of my life here before I moved. The things I always imagined my life would be like are now slowly becoming reality. My personal life is starting to get somewhat closer to what I imagined. My professional life is on a path that I never could have imagined. I’m not there yet, but I’m headed in the right direction. My life now feels familiar. I won’t say it’s comfortable yet, but it feels familiar. It feels, in a lot of ways, like it did before I moved down here.
In all aspects of your life, things will change. Things will not go according to plan. Things will not be easy. You have to learn to not obsess over the setbacks. You have to learn to not focus on minor day-to-day things that won’t matter down the road. Stay focused on your long-term goals. Remember why you are doing what you’re doing. Remember how few people are brave enough to take the chances necessary to even start following their dreams. You’ve started and you’ve made progress. You’re already winning. You haven’t won yet, but you’re winning. Keep making progress. Even if it isn’t as fast as you would like, keep going. It will all be worth it in the end. Don’t let your fear of the unknown defeat you. Never give up!!