I talk to people all the time who tell me that they don’t pay attention to the people around them, because nobody is paying attention to them either. They are convinced that the things they say and do go completely unnoticed, almost as though they are invisible. I think those people would be shocked to know how much the people around them notice, and how closely they pay attention. Anything you say or do in your life has the potential to leave a lasting impression on someone else, and it often happens without you even realizing it.
In the years I spent traveling with a band, I learned quickly to always assume that anytime I was around other people, there was potential for someone to be taking a picture of me or recording a video of anything I said or did at any given time. If you’re in a room alone, you can maybe relax a bit, but anytime anyone else is around, you need to remember that someone is likely paying attention. You need to be mindful of your words and actions. This is something I just learned to accept as part of my life, and it’s something I am very much aware of every single day now that my lifestyle has changed significantly.
Before, I wasn’t someone who was the center of attention, yet I still knew that somebody somewhere could be paying attention to me. Now, the things I do in my life are very much focused on bringing attention to myself. When I first moved to Florida and started working toward a new career and a new lifestyle, I was taught to create an image for myself. If you think of it in a business sense, you are creating your own brand. You need to be sure that your words and actions fit in with the image or brand that you are creating for yourself. That image or brand you are creating is you. The REAL you. People can tell when you’re putting on an act. Figure out who you are as a person and stay true to yourself.
This is nothing new for me, but I have been reminded several times lately that people notice me and remember me. When I go back to the places that I visit regularly, people I have never noticed before will come up to me and tell me that they remember me and that I have made some kind of impression on them. While I will admit that my wheelchair does make me a bit easier to remember than some people, everyone is memorable to someone else for some reason. How many of you actually take the time to stop and think about the impression you could be making on the people around you? While you’re sitting quietly in the corner of a room by yourself, someone in that room is likely noticing you and paying attention to the things you’re doing.
Over the past couple of weeks, I have had people I didn’t recall ever seeing before walk up to me and tell me they remembered me. While I had been focusing my attention elsewhere at some point in the past, I had, for some reason, caught the attention of these people and left some kind of impression that they remembered. This can either be a good thing or a bad thing. I am a naturally happy, positive person, but I also have the ability to make things seem great when they aren’t. The most common comment I get from people is that I always seem to be happy, regardless of the situation. Once again, create an image for yourself. I’m human. I really do feel that my life is pretty great most of the time, but I am able to smile and spread happiness and positivity to other people even when my life isn’t going as planned. Nobody is happy 100% of the time. It’s just not realistic. If they tell you their life is perfect, then they are lying. The biggest reason why I always seem so happy is because I feel fortunate. I know that, even when my life isn’t going as planned, somebody somewhere is in a much worse situation. Why would I not smile and be thankful for what I have? Being upset about what you don’t have in life is a waste of time. Getting upset doesn’t solve anything. You aren’t improving your situation, you’re just complaining.
I have mentioned this before in a previous post, but, for most of my life, people noticed me and remembered me because of someone or something else. For the first time, people are noticing me for ME. That is a really great feeling. Nobody will ever say that I am negative or whiny, because that just isn’t the kind of person I am. It’s not the kind of person I want to be thought of, so I don’t allow other people to see a negative side of me. I have doubts and fears, but I rarely share them with people, because that’s not the way I want people to think of me. To be completely honest, the way I view any situation in life is this… if I’m still breathing, then I feel that I have a chance to succeed. As long as I’m still alive, I have a chance. That’s not something I say just to make myself look good, I honestly believe it. Anything is possible if you keep trying, and eventually find a way to make it work.
People I don’t know at all have told me they could sense my positive vibes and felt like they needed to meet me. That is something I don’t understand, but hopefully I am able to make some kind of a positive difference in their life. I believe anyone is capable of making a positive difference. The only person who can stop you is yourself. Become the person that you would look up to if you were meeting yourself for the first time. You don’t need to try to be a superhero, but remember that someone else needs someone to look up to as much as you do. Why not try to be that person for someone else? Don’t put on an act and be fake. Legitimately become the person that you look up to. Be the person that others look up to. Leaving a bad impression and leaving a good impression take the same amount of time, so leave a good impression on the people around you. You may be surprised to know how much of a difference you can make in somebody’s life. Remember that you are memorable!!