Focus on Your Own Happiness
I mentioned this to my best friend yesterday, and I really think there’s a lot of truth to it. It’s easy for people say they’re supportive and care about what you’re doing, but most people don’t take the time to really pay attention. If it isn’t something that immediately grabs their attention, most people don’t care.
I have been incredibly fortunate to experience and be involved in a lot of things over the past couple of years that I never in my wildest dreams would have imagined would be possible for me. A lot of people back home, both family and friends, have told me they are curious to know what I’ve been doing since I moved away. I’ve been noticing regularly that if I tell people that something I am doing is specifically about me, they get excited. If I tell people that I am involved in something, they ignore it. Most people really don’t care. The people who are truly interested in the things I am doing will pay attention regardless, but they are in the minority.
I won’t go into a lot of specifics, because I, in no way, intend to come across as bragging about the things I’ve been fortunate to experience, but I’ve done a lot of really cool sh*t over the past couple of years. Most people back home don’t have a clue. Even most of my family has no clue. If they did know, they probably wouldn’t care. I have noticed that if I post something on Facebook and make it look like it’s all about me, people get really excited. A lot of people want to pat my back and congratulate me. If I post something that I am a part of (part of a group effort), it gets ignored by most people. The ones who sincerely do care will be supportive whether it’s something I’m doing by myself, or something I’m just involved in. The ones who do care will read this. The ones who don’t care will never see this, because clicking on a link isn’t convenient for them.
I don’t want this to seem like I’m just trying to get attention from people, but I see it as a wakeup call. The people in your life who are worth your time and attention are the people who give you their time and attention. You’re wasting your time if you focus on people who don’t care about you.
The best thing you can do for yourself is whatever makes you happy. Live your life the way you want to live it. Be happy. Pat yourself on the back and be proud of what you accomplish. People who are worth your time and effort will support you when you do what you love. Everyone else will be supportive whenever they decide to pay attention and whenever you happen to impress them.
I always wondered what it would be like to move away from my hometown and come back to visit. I’ve been back to visit twice since I moved away. Everyone I know was excited to see me when I came back to visit. A certain few of those people have put in the effort to keep in touch now that I haven’t gone back home in over a year and a half. Actions speak louder than words. It’s one thing to say, “We should meet up when you’re here next.” It’s a whole different thing to actively keep up with what is going on while I’m away, and look forward to my next trip back home, or reach out to me when they are down here.
Orlando is a major tourist destination. A lot of people I know have been down here since I moved here. Very few of those people have reached out to me and put in the effort to meet up since I moved here. I fully understand that people go on vacation with their family and want to enjoy that family time, but I don’t know if people understand how much it means to me to see somebody I know, even if it’s only for a few minutes. I spend most of my time by myself surrounded by strangers. I sometimes go months without seeing family or friends. Any chance I get to see a familiar face is something I really enjoy. Whether it’s for a day, several days, or just a couple of minutes, I love catching up with people. Friday night, I had my happiest moments in over two years of living in Florida. Getting to spend a little bit of time enjoying my favorite Disney World show with one of my favorite people was something I will never forget. It was my happiest experience in Florida. I hope she reads this and knows how much I enjoyed that short time we got to spend together.
Don’t spend your time obsessing over what other people think. Focus on you. Do what is best for you. Live your life. Do what makes you happy. You will never be disappointed when you quit trying to impress other people and just focus on your own happiness. I am happy to be doing what I’m doing now. I wake up every day excited to live my life. It’s a great feeling when someone else shares my excitement and happiness, but I am perfectly fine with enjoying that happiness by myself. I hope everyone who reads this finds that same happiness. Life is pretty great when you wake up excited to live your life.