I think it’s pretty normal for people to wonder what all this world has to offer. We wonder what life would be like if we had made different decisions throughout the course of our lives, or what would happen if we suddenly made a big change right now. That “What if…?” is always there. But, what if we stop looking elsewhere for answers to things in our lives and pay attention to what is right in front of us?
I’ve always strongly believed that nothing happens by accident. Everything happens for a reason. The events that take place in your life, the good times, the bad times, the successes, the struggles, our families, our friends, the people who surround us… none of those things and none of those people came into your life by accident. There is a reason those things happened. There is a reason those people are in your life. Do you ever stop and wonder why? The older I get, the more I realize the importance of those things and those people. There are lessons to be learned from every step of the journey through life.
You will find certain things and certain people that will be constants in your life. Life changes over time, but those constant things and constant people in your life will always keep coming back. They may not be a part of your every day life, but when you look at the big picture, you will realize that they were always there. Once again, this isn’t an accident. It’s not a coincidence. Pay attention. In those situations, the universe is trying to tell you something.
I, like most people (maybe everybody), keep wondering when my life will start to make sense. I wonder when things will finally fall into place and start to work out. It’s easy to get frustrated and search even more when things seem to not be working out in life. Maybe the answer to the questions we have were right in front of us all along, but we were too busy looking elsewhere to notice.
Growing up, I wanted to be a musician. I wanted to be famous. I wanted people to know who I was. I wanted to do something in my life that people would remember. I wanted to make a difference in the world. I did end up traveling with a band for a few years, but I wasn’t a musician… I got to be around musicians. Eventually, I decided to pursue a completely different path in life. That path led me to where I am now, as the director and lead instructor of a special needs junior golf program. Doing what I do now, I am able to make a difference in people’s lives. I am able to inspire them to work hard and achieve their goals. I am able to inspire them to persevere and overcome difficulties they may encounter. In certain situations, what I do now is something that could result in people knowing who I am. Maybe the things I do will be remembered. Maybe I will be able to make a difference in the world. Maybe this is, in a way, what I’ve always wanted… it’s just in a different industry than I expected to find it.
Why does this new path in life make sense and seem to feel more natural? Well, first of all, I was born with a physical disability. Putting in extra effort to persevere is something I have had to do my entire life. I never had a choice. It’s who I am. I have always had to find my own way to get the same results as my peers. Teaching kids to do the things I’ve done my whole life is kind of a no-brainer. Also, my mom taught preschool for 20 years. Growing up, without realizing it, I learned how to teach others just by being around my mom and watching the things she did every day. For me to end up teaching and working with kids just makes sense.
This realization makes me wonder what else I have missed that has been there all along. I am 32 years old and single. I always thought I would have been married years ago, but it hasn’t happened. I still haven’t found the person I will spend the rest of my life with… or have I? Maybe she is someone I will meet later on in life. Or, maybe we have already known each other for years, and just didn’t take a chance to see how things would turn out. I guess that I something I will be able to answer at some point in the future.
I could keep going on, but you get the point. With each passing year, life seems to get more complicated and more difficult, but I remember when I was younger I always thought life seemed so easy. Maybe I just didn’t have a clue back then. Or maybe I was smarter than I realize when I was younger, and I have just made things seem more complicated as I’ve grown older because of the decisions I’ve made. Life will throw you unexpected curveballs, and you can’t control that, but you can control how you react to those things. Maybe life really is simple and all of the answers have been right in front of us all along, but the decisions we’ve made have prevented us from seeing that simplicity.
As long as you’re still breathing, you still have a chance to make life turn out the way you want. Maybe it won’t go exactly as you’ve always hoped, but maybe that’s because there is something even better waiting for you. If something in your life that seems like it would be great makes you think, “There’s no way it’s THAT easy”, give it a try. Maybe it really is THAT easy. Maybe it’s the answer you’ve been searching for. There’s only one way to find out. If you find yourself searching for something in life, slow down for a minute and look at what has always been right in front of you. You might be surprised at what you find.