Lately, I have been reading and hearing more complaints from people who are unhappy with their life. This is nothing new, but I seem to be noticing it more frequently lately. Everyone goes through times in their life where they aren’t happy. There are times in life when nothing seems to go well. There are times when it seems like the whole world wants to kick you while you’re already down. It happens. It has happened to me several times throughout my life, and has kinda become a common theme for me over the past two years.
Want to know how to change it? Simple… change your life. Change your habits. If you keep doing the same things every day, then you’ll keep getting the same results. If you aren’t happy, then don’t keep putting yourself in a position to be unhappy. Change your lifestyle, change jobs, find a new hobby, find new friends, find a new place to live, etc. Whatever is causing your unhappiness, change it. I’m sure you’re thinking, “Well, it’s not always that easy.” Actually, it’s not as hard as it seems. You just have to commit to the change and go for it.
In August 2015, I packed up everything I owned and moved across the country with no real plan and hardly any money to start a new life in a place I had only visited twice in my life. I didn’t know anybody here. I enrolled in a golf school where I was told there had never been a student in a wheelchair before. Nobody knew if I could make it through the school, but I never saw a reason why I couldn’t do it. The only thing I was unsure about was what I would do after I finished school.
Well, three weeks after I moved down here, I woke up with a gut feeling that I should stay home that day, but I decided to go to class anyway. Three hours later, I was involved in a bad accident, and my car was totaled.
As a result of that accident, the past two years have been incredibly stressful. When you get to the point where you cringe every time the phone or doorbell rings, because you don’t know if you can handle much more bad news, you know things aren’t going well.
Now that the issues I had to deal with as a result of that accident are behind me, I am noticing that the fears and the stress that have been on my mind for the past couple of years are still in the back of my mind. They are hard to forget about, but, as is the case with most things, they will fade away as time passes by.
While I still have a long ways to go to become completely comfortable in my life, I have noticed some changes in my mindset that tell me I’m on the right path. Here are a few of those changes I notice now:
- I get to teach golf on Sunday mornings. Every Sunday morning, the first thought in my mind is, “I GET to teach golf this morning!!” On almost a daily basis, I hear people complain about how much they dread going to work. That is unfortunate. I GET to wake up and teach golf every week. I don’t HAVE to wake up and teach golf every week. There is a difference. It’s not something I dread. This is what I want to do. I made the decision to focus my time and energy in life on something I truly love. EVERYBODY should do that. Whatever it is in life that you love to do, find a way to make it your career. If you love what you do, then you never feel like you’re working.
- I lived the first 30 years of my life in a place where the weather is cold and snowy 6 months a year most years. I can’t stand cold weather. I can’t stand snow. I always loved summertime, and knew I wanted to live in a place where I could enjoy year-round summer weather. So, I packed up and moved to Florida. I’m sure I annoy the crap out of my family and friends back home, but I am not shy about saying that I don’t miss living in North Dakota. I miss my family and friends, but I don’t miss anything else about North Dakota. I used to spend my winters inside my parents’ house looking at pictures of the beach while listening to Jimmy Buffett, and wishing I were on the beach in Florida or on an island somewhere in the Caribbean. (Just a heads up… I am working on a post about this that I will probably publish in the next few days.)
- I live in a place where people from around the world visit for a vacation. I FREAKIN’ LIVE AT DISNEY WORLD!! No, I don’t actually live on Disney property, but I am 5 minutes away. I can hear the fireworks and train whistle from Magic Kingdom in my living room if I open the windows. People spend years saving money and planning their Disney vacations. I am able to go to the parks almost any time I want. If I have an hour of free time, I can go to Disney World. Sunday mornings when I’m driving to and from the golf lesson that I teach, I drive by the back side of Magic Kingdom and get to see Cinderella Castle. Some people never get the opportunity to visit any of the Disney parks, and I never forget that. As much as Disney is a major part of my everyday life now, I never take it for granted. Every time I visit the parks, and every time I even pass by a Disney road sign, I still have a “Holy crap!! I’m actually here!!” moment. It’s always magical, and it always makes me smile. Living here truly is a lifelong dream come true for me.
- The little things. Every day, I wake up and see palm trees. Every day, I am surrounded by golf courses, lakes, and all things Disney. I live 65 miles from the beach. The lifestyle here is just different. Orlando is an interesting combination of big city life mixed with a feeling of living on “island time”. Overall, the pace of every day life is just a lot slower than what I was used to growing up. In North Dakota, most people seemed to have the “Hurry up!! Get it done! Quit wasting time!” attitude. In Florida, it’s more of a “What’s the hurry? Just enjoy life” attitude.
I could probably keep listing tons of things, but these are just a few that stand out to me. I would never say I’m somebody that others should model their life after, but I wish more people would learn to just slow down and enjoy life. You only live once, so why not enjoy it while you can? If you aren’t happy with how your life is going, decide what does make you happy, and make the changes you need to make to be as happy as possible. Take the time to enjoy the people and the things around you that you love. Don’t take things for granted. Surround yourself with positive people who build you up and encourage you. Be proud of yourself and the things you accomplish. Be responsible for your own happiness, but find a way to make others smile, as well.
Too many people find things to constantly complain about. Find things in your life that make you smile, and be grateful for those things. Be thankful for your life. The things you may take for granted could be somebody else’s dream come true. Don’t ever lose sight of that.
Thank you for reading this! I hope you enjoyed it! If some of this seems a bit random or doesn’t make sense, I apologize. I have been going through a bit of what I call “reverse writer’s block” for the past few weeks. I have so many ideas running through my head that they all want to come out at the same time. I keep starting posts and have to delete them because I combine three different topics and they don’t make sense. I would love to hear from anyone who reads this. What are you most thankful for in your life? What are some things you are currently changing in your life in order to become happier? Or, what are some changes you’ve made in the past that have helped you to become happier than you were in the past?
I hope everyone is having a great week!!