I haven’t posted anything in a few weeks, and the reason for that is a problem I never thought I’d have. I have actually had so many ideas that I haven’t been able to stay focused long enough to finish an entire post before a new idea came to mind that I started working on instead. So, with that said, I’m back!!
The past few weeks have been filled with a lot of flashbacks for me. Some good, some bad, but all very memorable. When I take the time to look back, I keep noticing something that I think is pretty awesome. As many great memories as I’ve had a chance to reflect upon, not all of the flashbacks I’ve had have been to happy times. However, as more time passes, I am able to see what the results of each of those memories have been. The happy times have led to great things. The not so happy times, over time, have actually become positive memories for me, because I can now see that they have helped me to arrive in my present life situation. My life isn’t perfect. It’s far from perfect. But, you know, there are a lot of people who are in much worse situations than me, so I can’t complain much.
When I look back, I remember being in situations that felt like, if they went wrong, it would be the end of the world. Well, those things didn’t turn out as I had hoped, but life went on. Those things turned out to be not such a big deal after all.
As human beings, it’s easy to look at short-term consequences of our decisions. It’s easy to think that a bad situation will never get better. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Everything we go through in life is a small step in the journey of life. Just because something bad happens, or something doesn’t go as planned, it doesn’t mean your life is over. It just means that life has thrown you a curveball. You have to adjust and keep moving forward.
I am 32 years old and single. I am not single by choice. Believe me, I have tried. A recent memory that came to mind was from a few years ago. One of my biggest fears in life has always been rejection and the disappointment that goes along with it. I am very picky about allowing myself to become interested in someone I could end up dating, and, looking at the future, end up marrying. Because of that fear, it takes A LOT for me to ask somebody out, or to tell them when I have strong feelings for them. This past week, a memory came back to me, because it had been five years since I told somebody who was very special to me how I felt about her. I didn’t know it at the time, but she had just started dating somebody, so the conversation quickly became awkward.
Five years later, we are still friends, and I still care about her as much now as I did then. She is a really amazing person, and I would be thrilled if life brought us together again at some point. This memory was a great reminder that nothing is the end of the world. Going into that situation, I felt like, if she didn’t feel the same way about me as I did about her, our friendship would be over. I was looking at the short-term and thought about the worst case scenario. Looking back now, I realize that it wasn’t a life or death situation. It was a big moment in my life, but she is an amazing person, and she didn’t over-react. We still keep in touch from time to time, but we live over 1,000 miles apart now. I wish her all the best in her life, and I know she wants to see me happy, as well.
I have been in several of these situations where something seemed like it would be the end of the world if things didn’t go as planned, but life goes on. I’m still here. The world hasn’t ended. It’s easy to get caught up in the short-term consequences of something that doesn’t work out, but we need to remember to look at the big picture. Something that doesn’t go as planned right now won’t ruin your whole life. It’s a minor setback. Look at the big picture and remember that anything that happens right now in your life is just one small step of this long, incredible journey through life. Each step leads us to where we are and where we’re going. Unless you jump off a cliff, a single step along the way won’t define your whole journey. Look at the big picture and keep going.