Think back to the last time somebody paid you a really great compliment. How did you react or respond to that compliment? In my experience, many times, people respond by saying: “You’re too kind”, “No… you’re way too nice”, “It’s nothing, really”, etc. I hear it on almost a daily basis. I’m guilty of it, too. But, when was the last time you received a really great compliment, and just said, “Thank you”, knowing that you were deserving of such high praise? People are very quick to diminish the things they do well. People underestimate the impact they have on others a lot of times. In general, they just don’t give themselves enough credit.
When someone pays you a compliment, do you ever stop and wonder why? Clearly, you made a strong impression on that person, whether you realize it or not. Every day of my life, I wonder if certain people know how highly I think of them. I try to compliment them as often as possible, but I don’t think they fully understand how amazing I think they are. I know that they don’t think of themselves as being special in any way, but they are. They are to me, and I know they have to be to others, as well.
I receive compliments from people on a regular basis for various reasons, and I am starting to become more accepting of those compliments, but I still have a hard time accepting them, as I know others do.
Recently, I have had a few opportunities to take a step back and see some of the things that others see in me. I have met people who are in a position to inspire people that is similar to the situation I am in. I have been impressed by these people, and have seen and heard how impressed others are, too. It has been a good reminder for me that the things I do are different and stand out compared to the things most people do. It has reminded me that I should be proud of the fact that I stand out, and I should go out of my way to use the unique things I do to inspire others.
Over the past couple of months, I have approached several people on the driving range or practice green while I was working, and asked if they would like help with their golf game. The most common response I get is, “No, I’m a lost cause. I’m beyond help. Thanks though.” Every time, my response has been, “I’m in a damn wheelchair, and I’m not a lost cause. If I can do it, so can you!! Now, how can I help you?” About 95% of the time, I have already spotted and corrected the biggest flaw in their swing within the first five minutes. Every time, when they see the immediate progress they’ve made and are happy, I say, “But I thought you were a lost cause… what happened to that?” By asking that question, I hope I am able to help them realize that they need to think more positively and focus on their potential, not their flaws.
Last week, I got to watch a kid who only has the use of his left hand hit a few shots on the driving range. My initial reaction was, “How the hell does he do that? That’s amazing!!” And then I stopped for a second and thought about my own swing. I immediately realized that most people must think the same thing about my swing as I thought about this kid’s swing. Seeing how well he plays got me excited to work harder on my own game. If he was able to inspire me in that way, I have no doubt that I can do the same for someone else.
In the past, I have been completely caught off guard and confused by people telling me that they think watching me play golf is amazing. I don’t swing the way other people swing. My physical limitations have forced me to invent my own way of playing. My swing is my own. I am self-taught. It’s all trial and error. The more people I meet and the more I teach, the more I understand that I can inspire people just by being myself.
Honestly, I feel that there is nothing special about me at all. I do what I do because I have to find my own way of doing things. I don’t have a choice. But I know that people see me doing things differently and are impressed by what I do. Even during the worst round of my life, someone said to me, “Wow!! How did you do that?”
If you want to find a way to inspire other people or if you want to impress somebody else, realize that you already do. You don’t have to go out of your way to force it. Somebody is already inspired by you. Somebody is already impressed. Keep being yourself and pay attention when somebody compliments you. They’re complimenting you for a reason. Find out what that reason is instead of just ignoring it or diminishing it. Somebody thinks you’re awesome… you should think you’re awesome, too!!
Happy April, everybody!! It’s crazy to think that three months of this year have already passed by. We have a long ways to go in April, but my month is off to a pretty great start, thanks to an unexpected surprise.
When I showed up for work today, there was an envelope waiting for me with my name on it. That had never happened before, so I was completely caught off guard. Inside the envelope was a hand written thank you note from somebody whose name I had never seen before. I was confused for a few minutes.
Eventually, I realized the note was from a lady I helped a couple of weeks ago. During her golf lesson with another instructor, she asked if I would be willing to take some pictures and record a few short swing videos with her phone during her lesson, which I was happy to do for her. The staff at our golf academy is a team, so I just felt that helping out was part of my job. When you live and work in one of the busiest tourist destinations in the world, customer service is a top priority. If you don’t provide a high quality level of service, people will go elsewhere. She thanked me before she left that day for helping, and I honestly completely forgot that I had any involvement in that lesson until I read her note today. I didn’t expect to receive any kind of recognition in any way for anything. Once again, I felt I was just doing my job.
I have noticed throughout the day today that I have repeatedly thought about that note. First of all, nowadays, anything hand written is rare. I always really enjoy receiving anything hand written. It just feels more personal and more meaningful, in my opinion. That short note really made my whole day. It reminded me that such a simple gesture that I was happy to do for someone left a lasting impression on somebody else. Likewise, that short thank you note really means a lot to me. It’s hard to beat the feeling of being truly appreciated. That is something I will absolutely remember from this point forward, and I hope reading this is a reminder to all of you that something that seems so small or so simple can really make a big difference. We can all do our part to have some kind of positive impact on the world. Even the smallest gesture is much better than doing nothing at all.
I hope you all had a great day!! 😀
I think we all would agree that we tend to spend a lot of time either reflecting upon the past or looking ahead to the future. How many people are fully immersed in the present? I have to imagine most people are not.
None of us know what will happen in the future. We have no clue. There is nothing wrong with trying to picture your life in the future, and there’s nothing wrong with dreaming. I’m a dreamer. I’m a fan of dreamers. On the opposite side, none of us can change the past. It’s done, it’s over. What happened, happened. You can learn from your past, but obsessing over it is pointless. You can’t change it. The only thing you can control is what is happening right now. The choices you make today will shape your future. The life you live now will lead to your future. Pay attention to what you’re doing right now.
Last weekend, I got to see one of my brothers for the first time in almost two years. It was great to catch up with him, yet it was cool to see how little has changed over the past couple of years. My life is completely different now (so is his), yet it felt like nothing had changed when we started to catch up.
As I’m sure most people do, I tend to run through a ton of “What if…?” scenarios in my head. I think about what my life would have been like if I hadn’t moved away from my hometown. I think about what it would be like to move back. I think about what I’m doing right now, and where my life is heading.
I am absolutely 100% convinced that leaving my hometown was the smartest decision I’ve ever made. It just was. I have learned more about myself, about life in general, and about my family and friends since I moved than I ever could have learned if I hadn’t moved away. I really couldn’t be happier that I left home. A lot of people from back home read my blog. A lot of people get upset when I talk about being happy that I left. A lot of others understand it. I sincerely hope that those who get upset will learn someday why I’m happy I left. I could write about it a million times, but they wouldn’t understand it until they experienced it for themselves.
If I hadn’t left home, nothing would have changed for me. I would have kept telling myself that I was happy, as my life continued to nose dive. I had fun back home. I probably had too much fun. But, I was on a path that led to nothing. I had no future in the direction I was headed. It was just a matter of time before I hit a dead end. Luckily, I got out before I hit that point.
After I moved, I kept asking myself what I thought would have happened if I hadn’t left. I also kept wondering what would happen if I stayed here a while, then went back home. I think I know a bunch of the answers I was looking for, but you really never know what might happen. I’m happy with where I am now in life. Every day, something seems to happen to push me another step or two closer to what I want to ultimately accomplish. I’m nowhere close to where I want to be in life, but I’m getting closer every day. That is exciting to me. Yet, I can’t help but wonder what would happen if I suddenly had to go back home.
I try not to think about this much and haven’t told many people, but, on numerous occasions, I have been within days of moving back home. I have searched for jobs and apartments back home and started packing to leave. It wasn’t by choice, it was just what I thought my only option was at the time. But, every time, something has come up out of nowhere and changed things for me. I’m a big believer in fate. I believe I am where I’m supposed to be right now. Things aren’t perfect for me right now, but I’m on the right path.
If I moved back home tomorrow, I am pretty convinced I would have a job, a place to live, and a possibly girlfriend within a few weeks. The scenario I’ve created in my head makes going back to my comfort zone seem pretty enticing. Staying here and continuing on my current path, I know I have a home, I know I have a job, and I know there is potential for other things to fall into place as I have always hoped. I know that my life can and will get better than it is right now, but I have to say… I can’t really complain much right now. I have a lot of problems on my mind every single day. I have a lot that I need to work on. I have a long road ahead of me to get to where I can totally feel comfortable, but I also know that I’m in a MUCH better situation than many people.
Three game changers that I hear people talk about frequently are: job security, financial stability, and a loving and supportive significant other. I have one of those three things covered. As long as people are playing golf, I am confident that I will have a job. Golf is a challenging, frustrating game. As long as people continue to play it, people will need someone to teach them how to play it to the best of their ability. I don’t mean to brag, but I am damn good at teaching golf. I’m not the best, but I’m getting better every day. I’m constantly learning, and I am very good at what I do. I know I am. I’m not bragging, I’m just confident in my ability. The downfall in my current situation is that I only make money when people book lessons or classes with me. I’m not guaranteed a paycheck ever. I love doing what I do, but making money is a challenge. Things will work out eventually. Also, I know I will end up with that special someone in my life when the time is right. There is someone I met years ago who I know could make my life a million times better than it already is, but we live 1,500 miles apart. If she reads this, she maybe knows I’m talking about her. I can drop hints and hope all I want, but it probably doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to tell her how I feel about her or ask if she has any significant interest in me when we are on opposite sides of the country. Whether we remain just friends or become something more at some point in the future, I’m just happy and thankful to know that she is in my life. Whatever happens is what is supposed to happen.
Last weekend when I got to hang out with my brother and catch up reminded me that I’m on the right path in life. In a way, I got a bit of an outside view of what my lifestyle used to be like. I realized that I just can’t live that lifestyle anymore. It was great for a while, but it’s not for me anymore. I’ve outgrown it. I could never be truly happy back home again. I have a new home now. I love it. I never hesitate to tell people where I came from, but when people ask where home is, I tell them where I live now.
I may not know where my future will lead, but I know that my past is best left in the past. My present is right where I belong. I’m on the right path in life, and that’s great to know. I am who I am because of where I was and what I’ve done. Who I am now will lead to who I will become. Through all of it, the only thing I can control is what I do right now. I feel like I was a pretty good person earlier in my life, but I know I’m a better person now. The person I am now will lead me on the path to becoming an even better person in the future. If you want to improve your future, focus on right now.
The past couple of months have been crazy busy for me, so I apologize for the lengthy delay between posts. But, I’m back!! My life isn’t getting any less busy. In fact, I am getting busier by the day. But I will do my best to keep writing as often as I can.
Since the last post I wrote, I have met a lot of people and have noticed some common themes in my conversations with them. One of these common themes has been hearing them say, “I really should ________.”
So many people say: “I should”, “I wish”, “I want to”, etc. They talk about the things they want, but often times they proceed to talk themselves out of doing whatever it is they want to do.
Over the past couple of years, I have become a much more decisive person than I was in the past. In many cases, I know what I want and know how make things happen. I tend to get frustrated when people keep changing their mind about the things they seem to really want to do.
If you want something badly, then go for it. There have been many times in the past that I have wanted something, but was too scared to take a chance and go for it. Those situations have always left me wondering what could have happened if I had taken a chance. The only real regrets I have are things I have talked myself out of trying to do.
If you try something and it doesn’t work out as planned, then at least you know that you tried. You don’t have to wonder what might have been. If you keep talking yourself out of the things you want, then you will spend the rest of your life wondering if they would have been as great as you had hoped.
Stop waiting. Stop wishing. Stop being afraid to go after whatever it is that you want. The biggest challenge you will have to overcome in most cases will be your own fears and lack of commitment. Failure isn’t as bad as people tend to think. If you try something and fail, then at least you can learn from the situation and move on. Keep moving forward, always. Give yourself a chance to live the life you want to live. Do what you “should” do!!
I think we all could use a little extra motivation or extra encouragement from time to time. I seem to get that extra encouragement quite often. It’s natural to think of ourselves as completely ordinary, which I suppose is probably a good thing. It keeps our ego from getting out of hand. However, I catch myself in most cases not giving myself enough credit for the things I do. For many, this is probably the case as well.
People have always told me that a lot of the things I do are pretty special considering the challenges I have faced throughout my life. I suppose they are right, but I just have a hard time thinking of myself in that way. I am who I am. I do what I do. I don’t think anything about me is very special. Most people, I assume, probably think the same way about themselves. There is a line that I’m trying hard to not cross, but I am slowly starting to accept the way others see me as being my reality. I have always brushed off compliments and just said people were being too nice to me. As I get older, I am starting to realize how many ways I can use my situation and my abilities to make myself more successful, and, more importantly, to help and to inspire others.
My disability makes a lot of things that others take for granted more of challenge for me. It doesn’t prevent me from doing a lot of things, it just makes things a little more difficult. I still have a hard time accepting compliments from people who are impressed by the things I am able to do, but I am starting to become more accepting of the fact that other people don’t see me in the same way that I see myself. I can use that knowledge to help others who are in a situation similar to mine to feel better about themselves and to help them to be proud of what they are able to accomplish. Nothing makes me happier in life than being able to make a difference in someone else’s life.
For the past few years, I have had a message saved with the alarm clock on my phone. Before I moved to Florida, and for the first couple of years I lived here, that message read, “Florida awaits! Get up and go!” Before I moved, it was my reminder that everything I was doing was preparing me for getting ready to start my new life in Florida. After I moved, I kept the same message as a reminder that I was here and that I needed to make the most of every day. At the end of last year, I got a new phone and decided it was time to wake up to a different message every morning. That new message reads, “Wake up and be awesome!!” Everything I have done over the past few years has helped me work toward the life I wanted to live. I now have the chance to live that life. I have the opportunity every day to make a difference and to inspire people. I have the opportunity to be awesome in the minds of other people. Not only that, I have the opportunity to actually be awesome.
I think most people grow up idolizing someone and always wish they could mean as much to someone else as their idol means to them. Well, guess what… you can!! Make a difference. Be the person you would be proud to idolize. Remember that others are watching you and noticing the things you do. Don’t minimize the things you do in your life. You are capable of doing great things. Trust yourself and don’t be afraid to be the center of attention. People wouldn’t be focusing on you if there weren’t a reason to focus on you. Make the most of every day. Every day, wake up and be awesome!!
I hear people say, “It’s just one of those days” all the time, referring to the kind of day where nothing seems to go right. Today was quite the opposite for me. Certain days just stand out to me for no apparent reason. It’s a day where everything just seems really great. Today was one of those days for me.
I remember when I lived in North Dakota that I only experienced days like today a few times a year. It was usually in the spring or summer when the weather started turning nicer. Sunshine and warm temperatures make me happy. Since I moved to Florida, I’ve noticed that my mood tends to stay pretty much the same every day, since most days here are warm/hot and sunny. Today, however, for whatever reason, I woke up and could feel it. It was one of those days… a day where I just felt great. I was in a fantastic mood and was excited to share my happiness with anyone and everyone around me. I think people can feel positive energy coming from those around them. While a lot of people around me on a typical day will just pass by without acknowledging me, I noticed today that every single person I passed by smiled and said hello. I responded by doing the same in return to every single person.
I spent years dreaming of living in a warmer climate. I always preferred summer over winter. Waking up to the bright sunshine in February and knowing the weather will be perfect all day long is enough to put pretty much anyone in a good mood. I love music, and have always associated certain songs with certain people, places, situations, etc. There is a live version of the Jimmy Buffett song “Last Mango In Paris” that I’ve always associated with a hot, sunny day in Florida. Even before I ever visited Florida for the first time, that song made me think of Florida. Today, that song has been stuck in my head all day. I made that same connection between that song and this place with this weather. It made me happy. I’m smiling right now just thinking about it.
My mood has a major impact on my whole day, which I suppose is the case with everybody. When you feel good, things just seem to go better overall. When I was in high school, I had issues with seasonal depression. Winter was a bad time for me. When I think of winter, I think of cold and dark and the feeling of being trapped. Summer, to me, is warm, bright, and a feeling of freedom. My life now isn’t perfect, but 99% of the time, my life in Florida feels like all of the great things that go along with summer.
A little over a week ago, I moved into a new apartment. I left the place I had called my home since I first moved to Florida. I have had a lot of problems in my new place, but things are getting worked out now. I am starting to get settled a bit. Moving sucks. It’s just stressful and there is a lot to figure out in a short amount of time. Now that things are starting to get straightened out in my new place, life is starting to feel a little more normal again. I live about 5 minutes from my old place, so not much has changed. That helps. Most of my day today consisted of taking care of things associated with getting settled. It felt good to be productive. I finally, after 9 days, cooked my first meal in my new home. I ended my night with a delicious, much-deserved glass of red wine. There is a lot left that I still need to take care of, but life is getting back to normal now. I loved where I used to live. It was a great place. A lot of who I am right now is because of things that happened while I lived there. I have a ton of memories from that place. But, for so many reasons, I never felt like I got completely settled there. In just over a week in my new apartment, I already feel like I am getting settled. Even with all of the problems I needed to take care of, this place feels like home. As much as I lived life while living in my old place, life is going to change even more while I live in my new home. That is exciting to me. I am looking forward to many more days like today.
How many of you can relate to days like I had today? Days where you wake up and know you’re going to have a great day are a special treat. When you encounter one of those days, take advantage of every second of it. Nothing beats the feeling of having one of those days.
Something that I feel I could never do enough is thank all of you who read my blog for taking the time to read my posts. It really means a lot to me when people “like” and comment on my posts. I love getting feedback on the things I share.
I know I have mentioned this before, but my reason for starting this blog was to write things that I thought a few of my close friends might have an interest in reading occasionally. I wanted to give them an option for something positive to read on the internet, since so much of the media is focused on negative stories. I am genuinely excited and happy when my friends tell me they enjoy reading my posts and look forward to reading them. What I never expected, however, was for so many people around the world to also have an interest in the things I write. I have been learning over the past several months just how small this world really is. I have been finding out I have a lot in common with people throughout this beautiful world of ours. The interaction I get to have with so many amazing people on here, and the truly wonderful posts I get to read on other people’s blogs give me a lot of hope for our world. We are all individuals and have a lot of differences, but what is overlooked far too often is just how much we have in common. Too many people seem to forget that we are all human beings. We may come from different places, we may speak different languages, we may have different values and beliefs, etc., but there are truly wonderful people everywhere around the world. It has been a pleasure getting to know some of those wonderful people from all parts of the world through this incredible blogging community, and I look forward to getting to know even more people.
Last night, Positively Rolling Through Life passed the 1,500 views milestone. I know that isn’t very many views compared to a lot of bloggers who have been blogging for as many months as I have, but it’s something that is really special to me. Considering I honestly expected about 20 people, at most, to read my posts, 1,500 views seems like a lot.
Once again, I just want to thank all of you who have joined me on this journey of Positively Rolling Through Life. I really appreciate all of you taking the time to read the posts I share. It has been a great few months, but I am just getting started. I can’t wait to see how this thing continues to grow in the future, and I’m looking forward to meeting even more people in this great blogging community. Those of you that I keep in touch with regularly, I don’t know if I could ever put into words how much I admire you and appreciate you. Thank you all!!
Happy Valentine’s Day to everyone out there!! I hope everyone who celebrated this day of love had the opportunity to spend the day doing something you love with the person or people who mean the most to you. As a single guy, Valentine’s Day usually feels like just another day to me. This year, since my main focus in life is to be happy and to love myself, I spent the day focusing on the things I love most in my life. Valentine’s Day isn’t just for couples, it’s a day of love for everyone.
My day was spent at the golf course, and then I spent my evening at Disney World. I am a night owl and have never really enjoyed waking up early in the morning. When you know you’re waking up to go do something you love, waking up earlier suddenly doesn’t seem so bad. For me, waking up in the morning and reminding myself that I am going to spend my day at a golf course and Disney World is a dream come true.
Although my day didn’t go exactly as I had expected I have no complaints. I got to share a few tips with somebody who had never played golf before. Within seconds, he was showing signs of improvement. Golf isn’t the kind of game that people pick up quickly. It takes a lot of practice and hard work to become a good player, but it’s always very rewarding to see the smiles on people’s faces when they realize they are improving and they are having fun as I am teaching them. I love helping people and I love making people smile. It’s a great feeling knowing that I am able to help people and can help put a smile on their face.
When I left the golf course, I hurried to get to Magic Kingdom. I made it just in time to briefly see some people that I really look forward to seeing on a regular basis. I absolutely love going to my favorite place in the world and knowing that some of the people there remember me and look forward to seeing me, too.
Valentine’s Day is a day meant for couples to celebrate their relationship and their love for each other, but the truth is that it’s really a day for everybody. It’s a day for love. Even if you don’t have a significant other, you can still celebrate love. Celebrate the love you have for yourself. Celebrate the love you have for the people who mean most to you in your life. Celebrate your life. Spread the love and happiness to everyone around you. I think it’s really great that there is a day meant to celebrate love, but there is no reason why every day can’t be that kind of day. To me, today felt like a normal day. In many ways, today was nearly identical to yesterday. When you focus your attention on the right people, places, things, etc., every day can be a day of love. Celebrate it as often as possible. People tend to get upset when things don’t turn out as planned, but, if you just go with whatever comes up, maybe things will turn out even better than planned. Whether you’re celebrating with someone special, or by yourself, make the best of the situation. Try to enjoy every day like it’s Valentine’s Day. Don’t get too wrapped up in your plans. Focus on what is really important. Remember, it’s all about love.
I talk to people all the time who tell me that they don’t pay attention to the people around them, because nobody is paying attention to them either. They are convinced that the things they say and do go completely unnoticed, almost as though they are invisible. I think those people would be shocked to know how much the people around them notice, and how closely they pay attention. Anything you say or do in your life has the potential to leave a lasting impression on someone else, and it often happens without you even realizing it.
In the years I spent traveling with a band, I learned quickly to always assume that anytime I was around other people, there was potential for someone to be taking a picture of me or recording a video of anything I said or did at any given time. If you’re in a room alone, you can maybe relax a bit, but anytime anyone else is around, you need to remember that someone is likely paying attention. You need to be mindful of your words and actions. This is something I just learned to accept as part of my life, and it’s something I am very much aware of every single day now that my lifestyle has changed significantly.
Before, I wasn’t someone who was the center of attention, yet I still knew that somebody somewhere could be paying attention to me. Now, the things I do in my life are very much focused on bringing attention to myself. When I first moved to Florida and started working toward a new career and a new lifestyle, I was taught to create an image for myself. If you think of it in a business sense, you are creating your own brand. You need to be sure that your words and actions fit in with the image or brand that you are creating for yourself. That image or brand you are creating is you. The REAL you. People can tell when you’re putting on an act. Figure out who you are as a person and stay true to yourself.
This is nothing new for me, but I have been reminded several times lately that people notice me and remember me. When I go back to the places that I visit regularly, people I have never noticed before will come up to me and tell me that they remember me and that I have made some kind of impression on them. While I will admit that my wheelchair does make me a bit easier to remember than some people, everyone is memorable to someone else for some reason. How many of you actually take the time to stop and think about the impression you could be making on the people around you? While you’re sitting quietly in the corner of a room by yourself, someone in that room is likely noticing you and paying attention to the things you’re doing.
Over the past couple of weeks, I have had people I didn’t recall ever seeing before walk up to me and tell me they remembered me. While I had been focusing my attention elsewhere at some point in the past, I had, for some reason, caught the attention of these people and left some kind of impression that they remembered. This can either be a good thing or a bad thing. I am a naturally happy, positive person, but I also have the ability to make things seem great when they aren’t. The most common comment I get from people is that I always seem to be happy, regardless of the situation. Once again, create an image for yourself. I’m human. I really do feel that my life is pretty great most of the time, but I am able to smile and spread happiness and positivity to other people even when my life isn’t going as planned. Nobody is happy 100% of the time. It’s just not realistic. If they tell you their life is perfect, then they are lying. The biggest reason why I always seem so happy is because I feel fortunate. I know that, even when my life isn’t going as planned, somebody somewhere is in a much worse situation. Why would I not smile and be thankful for what I have? Being upset about what you don’t have in life is a waste of time. Getting upset doesn’t solve anything. You aren’t improving your situation, you’re just complaining.
I have mentioned this before in a previous post, but, for most of my life, people noticed me and remembered me because of someone or something else. For the first time, people are noticing me for ME. That is a really great feeling. Nobody will ever say that I am negative or whiny, because that just isn’t the kind of person I am. It’s not the kind of person I want to be thought of, so I don’t allow other people to see a negative side of me. I have doubts and fears, but I rarely share them with people, because that’s not the way I want people to think of me. To be completely honest, the way I view any situation in life is this… if I’m still breathing, then I feel that I have a chance to succeed. As long as I’m still alive, I have a chance. That’s not something I say just to make myself look good, I honestly believe it. Anything is possible if you keep trying, and eventually find a way to make it work.
People I don’t know at all have told me they could sense my positive vibes and felt like they needed to meet me. That is something I don’t understand, but hopefully I am able to make some kind of a positive difference in their life. I believe anyone is capable of making a positive difference. The only person who can stop you is yourself. Become the person that you would look up to if you were meeting yourself for the first time. You don’t need to try to be a superhero, but remember that someone else needs someone to look up to as much as you do. Why not try to be that person for someone else? Don’t put on an act and be fake. Legitimately become the person that you look up to. Be the person that others look up to. Leaving a bad impression and leaving a good impression take the same amount of time, so leave a good impression on the people around you. You may be surprised to know how much of a difference you can make in somebody’s life. Remember that you are memorable!!
If you wait patiently long enough, life has a way of getting back on track. This journey through life is full of all kinds of crazy detours, but you eventually find your way back to where you’re supposed to be. The past two and a half years of my life have been one giant detour, but I can feel things starting to get back to normal now… slowly.
I still have a ways to go and a lot to figure out, but so much of what has been a big mystery to me for the past couple of years is now starting to feel familiar and comfortable.
When I moved to Florida, I had an idea in mind of how I wanted to live my life and how things needed to happen if I wanted to succeed. Less than three weeks later, I was involved in a bad car accident, and everything I thought I had planned out suddenly came to a halt. Since that day, very little has gone as I had planned, or as I had hoped.
Before I left my hometown to start this new chapter in my life, I dreamed for a long time about what it would be like to be able to live in my favorite place in the world. When I visited Orlando to check out the school I would be attending and to start looking for a place to live, I got a small preview of what was possible. It was everything I had been dreaming of and more. I should have known better, but I just never expected things to get so off course so suddenly. Since the day of my accident, I have felt like I’ve been trying to catch up to where I was in my life in a lot of ways before my detour began. I’m not there yet, but I’m getting closer. In the process of trying to catch up to my initial plans, I discovered who I really am as a person.
Now that Plan A is starting to reappear in my life, I am realizing, once again, that everything happens for a reason. The life I wanted to start living two and a half years ago was a life that I wasn’t ready to live yet. I had to learn a lot about life and about myself before I could live that life.
I remember before I left my hometown I told people that I couldn’t afford to fail down here. I was taking too big of a risk moving across the country to fail. While my reasoning for saying that was valid, it just wasn’t realistic. Life is FULL of failures. It would sure be great if we all succeeded in everything we did, wouldn’t it? That’s just not how life works. We all fail. We all fail often. Learning to deal with failure makes us stronger and helps us to grow. It helps us learn to succeed and truly enjoy and appreciate success. I can’t say that the time I have lived here has been a failure, but it sure hasn’t been as successful as I had hoped.
I am now at a time in my life where a lot seems to be changing quickly. While most people start a new year with a “New year, new me” mindset, I came into this year expecting things to not change a whole lot. Turns out, I was WAY off in my expectations. What is changing the most is what seems to be a second chance to follow my original plans I had when I moved down here. The only difference is that I get to fast forward a bit. I have now been done with school for over a year, and I am able to focus on the other things I planned to do with my life at the time I started school.
I am having flashbacks to when I first moved here. Everything feels new and fresh again. My lifestyle is transitioning back to what it was when I first moved here. My focus is back where it belongs. My goals are back to what they were before my detour began. To complete the “new beginning” feeling, I am moving this week. Although I will have a new home, I am only moving about five minutes away from where I currently live. Everything I have grown to love about living here will stay the same, except I will have a different apartment. This change will be nowhere near what I experienced a couple of years ago. Right now is my chance to kinda hit the reset button on a lot of distractions in my life. This is my chance to do things my way. The life I planned to live down here is finding its way back to me. I just need to let it take over the lifestyle I have been living.
I keep thinking back to the winters I spent in North Dakota feeling like I was trapped inside while the snow was piling up on the ground. Snow and wheelchairs don’t mix. I was just never going to be happy living in that kind of climate. I needed to make a change. Old habits have kept me from fully embracing all of the great things that Florida has to offer. I used to wake up excited about going to the golf course every day that I could possibly play in North Dakota. Golf season is 365 days a year in Florida. In 2017, I played one round of golf. A big reason for that was not being able to afford to play, but an even bigger reason was that I was just lazy. I was uninspired. My life was full of distractions, mostly self-inflicted. The things in my life that are falling into place right now have me more motivated than ever to live the life I planned to live when I first moved here.
I’ve always found that overcoming general laziness takes care of most problems. My newfound motivation has already started to fix a bunch of problems I dealt with in 2017. It’s a good start, but I need to do better. The hardest part of making any kind of change is just getting started. Once you’re in a routine, things become easier and feel more natural. Surrounding yourself with the right people always helps to stay on track and stay motivated, but I already got the nudge I needed to get started. I’m excited to keep working toward the life I had hoped to live here. It took me a while, but I am getting a second chance in this chapter of my life. I couldn’t possibly be more excited for it!! It’s time to introduce the person I have become to the way things were supposed to be.